I'm sure I don't need to explain to much what the term means and I'm sure we have all come across one or perhaps even been one. I remember all to well how much your wedding consumes your entire life and and how perfect you want your day to be but let's not forget that not everyone ( immediate family and bridal/grooms party) will share the same amount of enthusiasm as you! Remember that this is yours and your bride/groom to be's day and so I have put together some top tips on how to avoid being a 'bride/groomzilla' both on the day and on the build up!

Expectations

Just know that things will go wrong ... sounds harsh I know but let's be real of course some things will not go as planned and this really can't be helped! Don't let these things ruin the day or your mood and of course others to! I remember walking into our reception and seeing this monstrosity of a cake that couldn't be further from what we ordered and as much as I wanted to cry and start blaming someone , instead we took a breath ... asked for it to be cut up and handed out before anyone would see it! We laugh about it now!

Just remember that your guests will not notice these details they are there to celebrate with you not judge your cake!

Do not compare

Now of course pintrest and Instagram is amazing for wedding inspo! But do not compare your day! Each wedding is perfect to each couple and your wedding day will be perfect to you both. It's not about topping anyone else's day!

You can't please everyone

Now this really is impossible and you can certainly cause unnecessary stress by trying! But there is way to respond without being branded with the 'Zilla'. Think about your requests and put yourself in the shoes of others. Also think about how your asking, are you asking or telling ?

And if people are putting their 2 cents in that arnt wanted just politely smile, nod and say thank you ..... then grab a bottle of wine!

Take some time away from the planning

Just remember there's life outside of planning and whilst you want the day it's self to be all about the two of you ( and quite rightly ) on the months and for some, years leading up to your wedding just remember to take some time away from wedding planning and enjoy spending time with your friends and family that doesn't involve asking them to help cut and stick invites or chop up the flowers for your confetti!

The Bridesmaids

Now the easiest way to avoid disappointment and therefore not turning into the B word, once you have asked your bridesmaids to be one of the biggest parts of your day I think it's best to find out how much they want and can give to the planning! These are your nearest and dearest so just be mindful and sensitive, the top two reasons a bride can fall out with a bridesmaid is the Hen do and the bridesmaid dress! Communicate with your bridesmaids, keep calm and carry on!

Here are the top 5 traits of a Bride/Groomzilla

• Your telling the professionals how to do their job

• Your making irrational demands and expecting a little to much of others

•Your wedding party is starting to bite back!

•Your comparing your wedding to others and wanting it to blow theirs out of the water

•Your stressing over the small stuff and wedding planning isn't that much fun anymore!

I hope this has helped and hopefully if your reading this as a bride/groom to be you can look out for the signs and avoid!

Chanel x

How to avoid being a 'Bridezilla' or 'Groomzilla'